As often as possible, we bring Frunchroom audience members onto the stage to tell their own stories – often to bring a new perspective to a common narrative.
John Tolley is a Chicagoan who’s spent most of his life living on the Southwest Side of Chicago. He’s had many occupations and experiences, one of which is being a Chicago Police Officer. He’s currently a Crisis Intervention Team (CIT) instructor and Critical Response Unit (CRU) officer. As an instructor, his team teaches fellow police officers from Chicago, neighboring suburbs and local universities communication skills designed to help build rapport and calm an individual in mental crisis. As a CRU member, his team will respond to situations that call for more teamwork or communication skills, such as a hostage barricade situation, assisting the negotiator.
Married to his high school sweetheart for the past 30 years, he has four children, all boys. One of his sons lives with schizophrenia. He is one of four children, two of whom live with bi-polar disease – including him.
Here’s what John says about his work with mental health – his own and others’:
I work with people living in crisis because of their mental illnesses and I, myself, live with one as well. I see the stigma everywhere I go. I see the way people deal with the homeless on the streets of Chicago. I see people refusing to accept the fact that a family member or loved one may have a mental illness. I see people afraid to seek help because of fear or intimidation caused by stigma. One in five people live with a major mental illness. Mental illness effects all our lives, yet people are frightened by it. People are ashamed to have it. People refuse to accept it. And the stigma grows.
In 2017, we had 17 suicides in the department. It is my hope that by sharing my life, by “outing” myself to other officers, they may see there is hope in recovery. That we can still live with a mental illness and remain officers.
John is the author of Disturbance With A Mental, which features his short stories and poems about mental illness. He’ll read two poems and a short story about his son son living with schizophrenia.
Join John and the rest of our readers this Thursday, July 25th at 730pm at Beverly Arts Center.
If you’ve watched a show with the word “Chicago” in the title, you’ve probably seen our next storyteller.
James Gordon is an international award winning poet and author, champion storyteller, and acclaimed actor.
He is a member of the talent conglomerate known as The Act Pack, which comprises talented individuals across many genres of entertainment.
James will play Nathaniel in the upcoming play “He Answered Me” on August 24th and 25th at Christ Tabernacle Church and can be heard and seen as the introductory voice of Amazon’s The G, as well as Detective Smiley.
James grew up in Windsor Park and Englewood and now lives in Marquette Park. He’ll tell a story about getting caught in gang warfare on the South Side – a story he performed and won with at The Moth.
Join James and the rest of our readers this Thursday, July 25th at 730pm at Beverly Arts Center.
One of the guarantees of a Frunchroom show is you’ll see and hear a mix of the old and new, the familiar and the fresh, neighborhood voices and surprising perspectives. Most importantly, The Frunchroom is a place where the line between fan and performer is blurred.
Kathy Benson represents many of the contrasts of our show.
Kathy is a bereaved & blessed, fit & healthy, ally and advocate, mom, writer, group fitness instructor, and coach. She has been married to her college sweetheart Bob, from the University of Illinois at Urbana/Champaign, since 2000. They moved to Beverly from Kathy’s hometown of Evanston in 2003.
Kathy and Bob have two living children, a fifteen-year old son Sean and a nine-year old daughter Abby. Their baby girl Molly died the day she was born in 2008. Kathy has been blogging at bereavedandblessed.com since 2007. She is passionate about helping people to cope and find joy when life doesn’t go as we hope, dream and plan (whether due to due to infertility, loss, illness and/or other circumstances), as well as to work towards their health and fitness goals. She loves to exercise and eat healthy (most of the time), which is therapeutic and keeps her in shape.
You can connect with her on Instagram at @bereavedandblessed and Twitter via @bereavedblessed.
Her story will be about grief and loss and reconciling the growth that comes after it. Join Kathy and the rest of our readers this Thursday, July 25th at 730pm at Beverly Arts Center.
In the larger conversation about the city, the nuance of the South Side and its many cultural gems are often ignored. Hyde Park has been a unique part of the South Side’s story for decades, encapsulating the conflicts of the old and new while also acting as the birthplace of some of the city’s greatest cultural institutions.
Whitney Capps is in the center of the live lit and arts scenes in Hyde Park. And she’ll join us on Thursday at The Frunchroom.
Whitney is a talker. Always has been, and probably always will be.
None of this really pays the bills; her day job is a leadership and team effectiveness coach with ClearSpace, LLC. She’s an aspiring yogi, an accomplished home cook, a shameless consumer of the arts and fiercely Chicagoan.
A resident of Garfield Park, Whitney will talk about The Silver Room Block Party, an annual tradition that now calls Hyde Park home and is one of the great celebrations of city life. Join Whitney and the rest of the Frunchroom readers this Thursday, July 25th at 730pm at Beverly Arts Center.
July brings hot temps (finally) and cool storytelling to The Frunchroom. Our first reader for our next show is critic, author and Sound Opinions co-host Jim DeRogatis.
Born in Jersey City, New Jersey, the year the Beatles arrived in America, Jim DeRogatis began voicing his opinions about rock ’n’ roll shortly thereafter.
He is an associate professor of instruction in the English Department at Columbia College Chicago, and together with Greg Kot of The Chicago Tribune, he co-hosts Sound Opinions, the weekly rock ’n’ roll talk show heard on 125 Public Radio stations nationwide, as well as via podcast on the Web.
DeRogatis spent 15 years as the rock critic at The Chicago Sun-Times and is the author of nine books about music, including Let It Blurt: The Life and Times of Lester Bangs, America’s Greatest Rock Critic; Staring at Sound: The True Story of Oklahoma’s Fabulous Flaming Lips; Turn On Your Mind: Four Decades of Great Psychedelic Rock; and Milk It! Collected Musings on the Alternative Music Explosion of the ’90s.
He has played in punk-rock bands since age 13 but jokes that he is a drummer, not a musician; his current band Vortis recently released its seventh album, on vinyl via Cavetone Records: This Machine Kills Fascists. He lives on the North Side of Chicago with his wife Carmél Carrillo, and his daughter Melody studies theater at Drake University.
I’ve included Tom’s complete Frunchroom performance at the bottom of this post. It will be included in the next episode of the relaunch of The Frunchroom podcast later this summer. He told three stories: “G.I. Joe and the Moral Test at the Five-and-Dime” and “Birthday Parties, Sleepovers, and Sunday Mass” and “Miss Daley, Linus, and Oratoricals.”
What you won’t see, but can likely hear, is Tom’s charisma and warmth as well as his love of the tiny details that make you feel a story in your heart.
As you’ll hear in the clip below, I ask every reader to send a bio. Tom’s was unique in that it traced his entire life, from birth right up until that moment. I’m reprinting it here because his voice comes through clearly – a voice that will forever be a part of The Frunchroom and will ring in the ears of those who knew him for a long time to come.
I was born in 1965 at Little Company of Mary in Evergreen Park into a South Side Irish Catholic family. I have 4 siblings, ranging 14 to 27 years older than I (the word you’re searching for is surprise; not mistake). I was an uncle at the age of 2, have 10 nieces and nephews and 20 great nieces and nephews.
My first home was at 103rd and Drake, second near 107th and Kildare in Oak Lawn, and then moved to the Oak Forest/Tinley Park area. I attended Kolmar (Oak Lawn) and St. Damian’s (Oak Forest) for grammar school, Marist High School and the University of Notre Dame.
Several years ago, I was shocked to hear that my friend Bob had passed suddenly. We met in 7th grade, and graduated St. Damian’s, Marist and Notre Dame together. That night, I had a flood of vivid memories about my childhood in Oak Lawn, before I ever met Bob. I typed them up and sent them to all the Kolmar school friends I could track down. Much to my surprise, one was an editor for the Huffington Post. She loved the piece and invited me to blog about growing up in the 70’s, and I started in the fall of 2012.
I’ve spent my entire career in the printing industry, which led me to live in the Dutch/Flemish speaking area of Belgium for a while during the 1990’s. This afforded me the opportunity to travel, including a visit to County Kerry Ireland, where both of my mother’s parents were born. Living in Belgium and traveling in Europe exposed me to the many different styles of beer, and I returned to the States just as the craft beer scene started to take off. I also blog for a social media craft beer group called the Pints Templars. Currently I’m working on building my own blogging site and ideas for fiction.